I don’t view myself as an expert on relationships by any means, but I do view myself as someone who does have some useful advice for others. My husband and I are celebrating 11 years together in a few weeks and I am happier with him than I was when we first started dating; and I was very happy with him when we first started dating. When people ask me how we are still so happy after 11 years together, I have a simple answer. We make each other happy because we focus on each other and make our marriage a priority. However, my husband does quite a few little things that make me happy every day, and it’s my opinion that if your guy isn’t doing something to make you happy on a daily basis, he’s not the right guy for you.
He Listens
When I have something to say, my husband listens. He doesn’t offer advice unless I ask for it. Sometimes he just gives me a hug and tells me he’s sorry I’m frustrated, or he’s proud of me, or he’s excited that I accomplished something. Other times he hugs me and tells me that some things aren’t worth my precious time and that he’ll remind me of that every day until I finally realizes. He even hears me when I ask him to do the laundry.
He Loves Me
We have our own little love language that we speak to one another. I call him Big Daddy, he calls me Little Mama. We never use each other’s first names. There has never been a time he hasn’t walked by me without touching me in some way, whether it is a quick squeeze of the hand or a kiss on the forehead. He sends me quick texts to tell me he loves me. He picks up Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups (only the big ones because I don’t like the little ones) and freezes them to surprise me with after the kids go to bed. Little things he says and does let me know he loves me every single day.
He Loves My People
My husband has never once said anything negative about anyone I care for and love. I know who he doesn’t care for as much as others, but he never says anything negative to me about the people I love, because he doesn’t want to me to be in a position that makes anyone uncomfortable. He always smiles, entertains, listens, and he never complains when we have to spend time with the people he doesn’t love the most.
