How I begin my day is crucial to how I end my day. I make a conscious decision every morning to ensure that my day begins on a high note. I like to get up early. I like to shower and blow dry my hair, put on my makeup, sit down with a cup of coffee and the quiet that comes only at 5 am when my four kids are asleep and my husband sits next to me. I like to watch the sun come up over our back deck from inside our house of glass. I like to sit on the deck in the mornings when the weather is nice (but this is Florida, so that is usually pretty rare). And I like to know that I can control my own happiness.
I read my First 5 app the second I sit down with my coffee. I pray when I wake up. I like to say thanks for all my blessings and focus on the good in my life. Everything else, no matter how bad it is, always seems less so when I focus on the good. It always seems to fall into place, and I always seem to find a way to handle whatever is my issue. However, the most important thing I do every single morning is choose to have a good day. My attitude is a big factor in the rest of day. When I lose control of that, I lose control of my day.
That’s why I am a huge advocate for helping people begin their days on the right note. Who doesn’t want to have a good day? I always find it humorous when someone says that they don’t think that they can choose to be happy in the mornings if things don’t go right; you can. You just have to know what to do. At the risk of sounding a bit preachy, I thought I might tell you how you can help begin your day on the right note so it never sucks for you. Being happy and having a good day is a habit, and it takes some time to get used to doing these things in the morning; but you’ll get it, and when you do, you will never be happier.
Wake up early
If you are waking up with the kids, you’re doing it all wrong. The simple fact of the matter is that no one can gain control of their morning when they are woken up by kids demanding to be fed, watered, changed, played with, helped, etc. Trust me; I have four of my own. When I oversleep and they get us out of bed, we feel out of control. It leaves us with no time to wake up and get going. It’s from 0 to 100 in a matter of one second. We need more time than that to get focused on our own day and getting up early might not sound like fun, but it’s so helpful.
Do something for you
For me, the mornings are a great time to ready my First 5 app and to spend a few seconds saying a quick prayer of thanks for everything good in my life – and for my kids and my husband before they begin their day. Some people prefer to get up and write in a journal, perhaps what’s bothering them or what is good in their lives. Some people like to get up and go for a run or take in a few deep breaths in a yoga class. Whatever you need to do for you first thing in the morning is what you need to do. When you make that time for yourself, you make time to have a good day.
Choose to be happy
It’s really so much easier than it sounds. Trust me when I say that sometimes my morning is filled with chaos. There was the day I spilled my coffee all over my laptop within 10 seconds of sitting down. There was the day my twins both woke up covered in vomit and running high fevers, one of my older kids woke up with a killer stomach bug and I was just getting over the flu – it was day one of feeling better for me. That might have ruined my day, but I chose to focus on the positives.
It was a stretch. I had to focus on the fact that just because three of my four kids woke up ill and I was still sick with the God-awful flu, we woke up! I had to focus on the fact that at least they woke up sick on a day that I actually had enough energy to get out of bed for the first time in five days. It’s not always easy to find the happy in a day, but it’s there; just look for it.
Be thankful for what you have and always remember this: There was a day in your past that you sat down and prayed and begged and hoped and wished for everything that you have now. There was a time when this was enough; when you would have given anything to be where you are now. Focus on that.
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