A happy marriage is all relative. It all depends on a couple’s idea of happy. In my house, we consider our marriage happy because it’s fun and it’s loving and it’s kind. We argue, but we don’t engage in fights. We disagree, but we keep it respectful. We both agree that our marriage is of utmost importance and we like to set a good example of a happy marriage for our kids. We laugh a lot, we joke around, we play, we travel, we cook together, and we have fun hobbies. We have likeminded friends. We have four great kids. We choose happiness, and after 10 years o marriage we don’t feel much different than we did the day we got married. Older, maybe a little more distinguished looking and definitely happier than we imagined, and we love it. A happy marriage is not the same to everyone. For some, not spending much time together is happy. For others, not fighting is happy. A happy marriage is defined differently in every single household and while we cannot put a definition on a happy marriage, we can tell you that there are 10 scientifically proven facts about happy marriages we all need to know.
If you’re two complete opposites when it comes to money, you are more likely to run into marital troubles. There will always be arguments about the way one of you spends if you’re not on the same page, and that can lead to issues in your marriage. Finances are one of the leading causes of divorce, and this is true of people who have plenty of money just as much as those with none.
The “We” Word Works
Using the word “we” as your go-to phrase really does work. This is the phrase that allows you to stay in sync, as well as together. This is the word that allows the two of you to understand that you are a couple rather than two people just living together. Sure, you’re independent and all that good stuff, but you are a couple and that comes first.
Positive Thoughts Change You
A positive thought about your spouse can make a huge difference. A positive outlook is magic. Saying positive things about him or her to other people is magic. When you choose to look at your spouse in a positive manner rather than at his or her flaws, you’re on the road to a much happier marriage.
Appreciation is Key
All you have to do is thank your spouse from time to time. Showing appreciation for your spouse is proven to make your marriage stronger. It’s an ideal way to ensure that your spouse feels the love and appreciation that comes from you, and that makes him or her more determined to be a better spouse to you, as well.
Laughter is the Best Medicine
The couple that plays together stays together. The more you laugh, the happier you will be. Laughter is scientifically proven to make you happy, even when you’re not. When you laugh together and enjoy one another’s company, it will do a lot for your marriage to make it more successful and a lot happier than you could ever imagine. It also shows that you don’t take things too seriously and that you can enjoy your partner.
Similar Interests are Important
You don’t have to like all the same things, but having a few things in common is scientifically proven to make a marriage happier. If you like all things different, you’re not engaging one another. If you have some things you enjoy doing together, chances are good that you are going to end up spending more time together doing things you like and less time resenting the other. Find something you enjoy doing together so that you have something in common; it does help.
There’s No “I” in Team
Teamwork is what marriage is all about. You’re a team when it comes to any kids you might have, when it comes to your families, your friends and your outside interests. It’s the two of you together. The second you forget this is the second that your happy marriage becomes a troubled marriage. Being on the same page has a way of making people feel much happier together. You are a team, and it will do you good to remember that at all times.
Hard Work Helps
Remember when everyone told you that marriage isn’t easy? That’s because it’s not; you have to work at it every single day to make it happy and successful. If you’re not working at your marriage on a daily basis, chances are good that it’s not going to be a very happy one. You don’t have to make the work unenjoyable, but you do have to actually work so that you can be happy together. Work at it and you will see the results in your marriage.
Romance is Not Underrated
You have to keep the romance alive in a marriage if you ever expect it to work. Yes, the honeymoon phase does die down a bit, but it certainly does not have to end. Even after 10 years of marriage we still have a lot of romance in our marriage and the honeymoon phase is still here most of the time. Sure, we annoy each other, and we argue, but at the end of the day, together is where we want to be.
Dating Always Works
You have to keep dating your wife/husband. You cannot stop dating your spouse. The moment you stop dating, the moment you begin to push one another away. When you were dating, you always put your best foot forward. There’s no reason to stop that just because you’re married and no longer feel it’s important to impress your spouse. You should always put your best foot forward in marriage; it’s what makes it more successful. If you continue to date and show one another your best side, you will never find yourselves missing out.
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